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โ08-10-2019 07:45 PM
โ08-10-2019 07:45 PM
Re: Ups and Downs of Husband`s Mental Illness
Cognitive deficits = yikes @Shaz51
Mr Darcy tells me he has trouble concentrating and subsequently listening. Sometimes he seems to have no idea what has been said, at other times he remembers details I don't.
Sometimes I wonder if how much of this relates to how much he is interested in the topic *sighs.
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โ08-10-2019 08:07 PM
โ08-10-2019 08:07 PM
Re: Ups and Downs of Husband`s Mental Illness
Cognitive deficits , yes same here @Former-Member
sometimes i think " am I losing it "
Sometimes he seems to have no idea what has been said, at other times he remembers details I don't.-- yes the same here sighs alright
he won`t remember things and i have to remind him
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โ09-10-2019 07:44 PM
โ09-10-2019 07:44 PM
Re: Ups and Downs of Husband`s Mental Illness
hello @Former-Member , how are you going today
I was reading Cognitive deficits ,last night
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โ09-10-2019 11:36 PM
โ09-10-2019 11:36 PM
Re: Ups and Downs of Husband`s Mental Illness
I found this web page explains what cognitive function is in easy to understand terms.
http://alzheimers.emory.edu/healthy_aging/cognitive-skills-normal-aging.html
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โ10-10-2019 09:12 AM
โ10-10-2019 09:12 AM
Re: Ups and Downs of Husband`s Mental Illness
@Former-Member, level of interest definitely makes a difference. It's not necessarily that he's not paying attention at other times. There's neurological functions that simply engage better when it's a subject we enjoy or feel personally connected to.
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โ10-10-2019 09:24 AM
โ10-10-2019 09:24 AM
Re: Ups and Downs of Husband`s Mental Illness
I got a sneak preview of what it's like to lose cognitive function after neurosurgery all those years ago... short term to long term memory transfer relies on the frontal lobe being able to "place" the new memory in an orderly manner. Problems happen when the brain can't hang on to the memories long enough to make the transfer, or when the memories get stored in a disorderly manner. When it was explained to me, I made the analogy of "instead of putting the memory in it's right place on a shelf, the brain opens the door and throws it into the room". Which means the memory is there, but hard to find.
An external "marker" such as someone reminding you or a written note in a diary can act as a link to the misplaced memory sometimes. And the act of writing it down can help put things into neurological order. So having a clipboard (or tablet?) with a checklist for garden jobs might help. "Mowing- yes/no. Areas to avoid- _____" "Garden waste to collect-yes/no. Details____" Once written down, he may never even need to refer back to the list, but if he does, it's right there. Am not sure whether the physical act of writing might be more effective than an electronic checklist.
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โ10-10-2019 06:36 PM
โ10-10-2019 06:36 PM
Re: Ups and Downs of Husband`s Mental Illness
@Smc, @Former-Member , @Former-Member , @outlander , @Maggie
mr shaz was sooo anxious about starting a new mowing job today xx
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โ10-10-2019 07:26 PM
โ10-10-2019 07:26 PM
Re: Ups and Downs of Husband`s Mental Illness
Are you ok @Shaz51 ๐๐๐๐
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โ10-10-2019 07:28 PM
โ10-10-2019 07:28 PM
Re: Ups and Downs of Husband`s Mental Illness
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โ10-10-2019 07:33 PM
โ10-10-2019 07:33 PM
Re: Ups and Downs of Husband`s Mental Illness
Hello my @Maggie , thank you my darling xxxx
Trying to get a balance between looking after my mum , helping Mr shaz and working and my problems
How are you my Darling , thinking of you lots xx