Hi y'all 

This is an update on my ex husband. 

I'v been working very hard in not being enmeshed anymore. 

It's working  --- this has what's evolved in past week.

He came over and was freaking out over having 3000 on his Facebook page of women contacting him. Especially one who bared herself and promised fidelity but unfortunately her mobile phone just broke and she can't contact him anymore. 

But she can receive messages. My partner, Mr Rocker and I were horrified. 

My partner spoke  very casual and said about safety......

we got out of him that the hospital  cut his antipsychotics in half about six months previously. He spoke that he is feeling alive and the feelings were making him feel wonderful. 

Last Friday, myself and my carer drive over to see him. She has had much experience in schizophrenia. 

As his next of kin, I asked if it was interfering that I contact the hospital ? She said yes and I understood her reasoning but when she saw him she said he is quite messy. 

Then there was a breakthrough. 

I walked across the road to purchase nice coffees and him a gingerbread man. ( Us croissants )

When we walked back was an OT and her student visiting him. I was able to voice all concerns with my ex husband threatening to mash my head against the wall. 

It was wonderful. 

I said of the money wasted he spent giving girls money. 

His irrational behaviour.

Everything. 

We left, we got in the car and drive away and it's not upsetting me anymore. 

He still speaks to me every day. But he speaks only for 5 -10 minutes as his priority is convincing 

3000 women that he is a nice person.