oohh @Shaz51 

Every situation is always different of course as you already know.

Your mum's health issues must also be considered.

Her specialists will be consulted i would imagine due to her kidney issues and dementia.

Anaesthetics have to be weighed up.

Main issue is trying to manage her pain levels I would think.

So very hard for you on the sidelines.

When I become so overwhelmed with what is going on in my adult son's life and the reality that there is nothing I can do other than listen to him even at times when he comes out with such hurtful things; I remind myself over and over that this is his pain; his life which I cannot live for him. I am his mum and want to take all of that away for him. He must live his life as each and everyone of us do. Not easy at all is it?

hurts so much more than words can describe as you are feeling as a daughter for your mum.

Keep on telling her that you love her and will sit with her when you can.

She will sense your presence at times.

(looking after your health first now at all times) very hard but vital.

My mum has dementia also. She is now 96.

Holding you in my thoughts and hearts Shaz.

Let those tears flow and rest if you can. Reserve your energy for you dear Shaz

your friend Sophia  💜