Friends, Family & Carers Forum

[Appleblossom]

Welcome to the forum @Suzy164  Glad you ahve met @Shaz51 and @Faith-and-Hope and the others ...

If you are living with your son, it will probably be important to give yourself space and check in with him in a way that suits you both, but also lets you get on with your own life rather than be in fulltime worry about it all.

Eg.  I check in once every 24 hours sometimes there is only the smallest interaction, a hand wave, or a Good morning, or something, other times there is more when he is open. But I have told him that at least once a day he has to "relate properly".  It may not suit your circs.  You may need to set limits on him waking you at night ... I asked my son not to play my piano ... and wake me up ... he can do what he needs at "his end of the house".  Anyway they are a few tips that made a difference for us.  We are in negotiation about eating together.  We used to eat a meal everyday together but atm he is wanting to be more independent, which is fine by me, as I have different food needs to him ... eg watching cholestrol...

Taking care of you is very important as the others said.

Cheers Apple