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23-11-2016 10:50 AM
23-11-2016 10:50 AM
Mu
We believe my Mum has had an undiagnosised mental illness since possibly her teens. She is now in her early 70s. She has paranoid episodes. Last night she called in a kind of mania saying that someone was looking at her emails, and the council had declined her parking renewals and lots of other strange things were happening since my step-dad had an operation. Basically meaning that 'someone' or 'they' were sabotarging and targeting her. I feel like these episodes are brought on by stress since my stepdad has just had an operation. I live in another state. It causes great stress to myself but especially to my step-dad when these moments happen as he is alone with her. I have gotten to the point in my life when I would like to talk to other people living with parents with mental illness. The illness has gone undiagnosed as she has never been a threat to herself or anyone else. But the local GP and other people are aware of her state.... Just reaching out to feel a little less isolated.
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24-11-2016 02:10 PM
24-11-2016 02:10 PM
Re: Mu
Hello @Emily2, welcome to the Forum. It's interesting how paranoia seems to creep in with aging. With my own mother, while I wouldn't say she is unwell, she's certainly become more paranoid as she's entered her 70's. Suddenly there are things she can't say on the phone, reasons for increasing secrecy, doubt about the intentions of others.
Perhaps aging in itself is a little frightening (declining health, loss of loved ones etc) and so that expresses itself through paranoia. You're probably right that the stress of her husbands ill-health is a factor - that in itself is frightening as it may have caused her to start contemplating life without him one day.
One thing I find helpful is to avoid arguing the facts - I can never convince her that someone isn't listening in - but to explore the underlying feeling so that you still have a connection and a way of communicating. So with my Mum I'll sometimes ask her what she's worrying about, how she feels about her own health, what she pictures when thinking about the future. I just drop these into conversations from time to time as it helps me understand what's going on. I never want her to feel interrogated so I keep it pretty casual.
I'm also in another state so I empathise with how worrying it can be when you're far away. I'm not sure if these suggestions will help but they do give me some comfort.
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24-11-2016 08:14 PM
24-11-2016 08:14 PM
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29-11-2016 05:04 AM
29-11-2016 05:04 AM
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29-11-2016 03:56 PM
29-11-2016 03:56 PM
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Hi Jane,
Thanks so much for your reply. It is conforting to know there are others who have experienced what I have. It does warp what is real for a child. Tare care too. 🙂