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13-03-2017 07:56 PM
13-03-2017 07:56 PM
Advice
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13-03-2017 08:34 PM
13-03-2017 08:34 PM
Re: Advice
I have nothing particular to advise, you seem sensitive and caring, just want you to know you have been heard.
I am enjoying art at the moment and think sometimes old fashioned ways of courting can help.
Good Luck
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20-03-2017 03:53 PM
20-03-2017 03:53 PM
Re: Advice
Hi @MMP
It's so hard to keep the space when all you want to do is help. You also have your own needs, which are not being met - and it's okay to feel that way! You shouldn't feel guilty about that.
How have things been over the past few days? Do they still want space or are you reconnecting again?
Nik
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29-03-2017 04:30 PM
29-03-2017 04:30 PM
Re: Advice
Hi there @MMP
A very warm welcome to the forums, thank you for sharing with us.
That sounds incredibly tough going through all of that with your partner, I think what you are doing is great and very helpful. Just try to still be his partner and be yourself, you could even ask what support works for him and if that is space then that is okay but you will still need to check in every now and then because you are concerned about him and that is helpful to maintain your boundaries with him.
Hope things are going okay? Thinking of you,
Lunar 🙂
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01-04-2017 05:23 PM
01-04-2017 05:23 PM
Re: Advice
hi @MMP
i dont really have much advice to offer you but welcome to the forums and i hope you find the help you deserve
how are you travelling? has anything improved for you?
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04-04-2017 02:00 PM
04-04-2017 02:00 PM
Re: Advice
Hi @MMP,
Maybe you could use this time to do some relaxation and also to reflect on yourself and the relationship and contemplate is there anything your doing "wrong" or could do different to improve the dynamics of the relationship.
Its a sign of maturity that you are not taking it personally.It sounds like your partner is making a sensible decision to have some "breathing space" and figure out his own identity first instead of going back into potentially unhealthy patterns.