Why is there so much pressure on days

[Judymay]

So over days having meaning when you are alone and you can't hold a normal day so add an occasion and we are next level struggling. 

I want to ignore it and hope maybe if it doesn't notice me I'll get through untouched and no fate given for the new year. The other half ones to sage my room and burn everything that I lost this year and even still this week reminding me it's taking everything. I don't know I guess I'll wake up and see either way I am I sure if we get to

dictate it anyway.

all I know is I am accepting closure or understanding dor basically everything this year has not been given so yay that's reallly fun to let go. 

[Gremlin24]

@Judymay life is hard enough to get through sometime without the added pressure of specific days. Unfortunately when we are alone those days seem to remind us just what we are missing out on. 

Sending you lots of strength to keep pushing through, you've got this. Let's hope the new year is better for all of us. 

[MJG017]

@Judymay 

I know the only way i've gotten through the past year or two is to learn to not focus too much on things I can't control.  Things are going to be hard enough without adding more onto the pile.  So I've learnt to try and kind of... I don't know... "let go" of stuff I just can't control or change.  It hasn't really solved anything or transformed my life at all, but just allowed me to survive just a bit easier and get through each day.  So if you can manage to do this, well done!  It seemed like such a small thing before but now, it feels like such a massive achievement because I know now that it is.  For me, part of it is realizing that certain things in life are finite, so appreciate what I have while i have it.  Like I said, it just helps me get through each day.

[AdamDH]

I've started the new year on a similar note. I've got weeks of holidays left in Alice Springs but there is nobody in town, and I just have this impending anxiety about what am I going to do with all of these days? And how have I slipped so far from a regular life routine that I've forgotten how to structure my days to include my self-help routines, or apply myself to something meaningful. I pushed the world away through addiction, depression, and trauma, and now I'm left with nobody and it feels so raw that it makes it hard to face the future...

[tyme]

Argggghhhh @AdamDH !

Tell me about it!

I am LOST without work and routine. Work gives me stability, accountability and routine. I've come to the point where I don't know what day it is, and the more I 'rest' and sleep, the more yuck and headachy I feel!

For me, the best way to cope is to just keep the regular waking/sleeping routine. I had 2 days of sleeping in and I felt TERRIBLE. So today, I woke up by 6am and was out of the house by 8am, and I felt so much better - and got more done!

Maybe this will help?

[AdamDH]

Thank you for your response. That is a great suggestion. I've actually started a similar routine today where I was up and went for a big walk in the morning. The goal tomorrow is to do some reading when I return from that, and then once I can get into that routine I can add playing the bass into the mix too. Start small and then add to the list and routine. I'm also thinking of joining a community group called Toastmasters that is all about improving public speaking and leadership skills. 

Stay strong. You got this!

[rav3n]

hey there @AdamDH i'm so sorry to hear your feeling that way. i know this isn't where you wanted to be at this point in time, sometimes things take a turn but there's always a way to get back onto the track you want. i assure you there is still hope.

it's clear that you've gone through a lot with addiction, anxiety, depression, etc., and you've come out the other end as a different person too. it isn't too late to rebuild or create new connections. but there's no rush either too. sometimes we put so much pressure on ourselves to reconnect with reality but its okay to take it a small step at a time. what's some of your self-help routines? maybe you can start by trying to fit one of them back into your day-to-day schedule? i went to the beach on my own this holiday, and just hearing kids playing, watching the waves crash, seeing the pink-blue sky was enough of a connection. you can find your equivalent too. 

you're not alone here, we're here for you.