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Not sure what to do !!!

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Sending love my sis @Shaz51 xxxxooo

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Thank you my sister @BlueBay xxx

Thinking of you lots  today xxx

The hospital asked where I want to put mum if in needed permanent care 

I said our local hospital @Former-Member 

 

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Oh @Shaz51 these are such big questions to be faced with 💛

I hope you know deep in your heart that you have been an amazing support for you mum, and an advocate for her too. I can only imagine she knows that better than we here do, but it's so clear to us all. You should feel a sense of pride in being the kind of person who shows up for others and can provide the care that you do. It's not a trait that is common to all, it's a true strength.

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@Former-Member , there is no permanent care beds at the hospital at the moment 

But mum can stay in hospital for up to 30 days before deciding anything 

I have applied for home help with some services if she is able to come back home 

Soo have to see what happens xx

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@Former-Member , @Paperdaisy , @Faith-and-Hope , @Emelia8 , @BlueBay , @Former-Member , @moderator, @Jacques , @Zoe7 , @Oaktree , @Former-Member , @Smc , @Determined , @Adge 

Not sure about this weekend,  spoke to the doctor and she will have more information tomorrow 

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What’s happening @Shaz51

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Oh @Shaz51 

I’m thinking of you and your mum xxxx

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Ohh @Former-Member , mum had lots of test done today to see what is wrong and the doctor said she will have more information tomorrow xx

Waiting is hard 

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It is very difficult when parents get old @Shaz51  I’m really sorry to hear that. I’ve lost both parents. Tragic circumstances. Sending love and hugs to you 

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@Shaz51, I haven't known you long, but like @Former-Member said, I can see you've been such an amazing advocate for your mum and her needs. She's lucky to have you ❤️ 

 

You said the waiting is hard, and that is totally understandable with everything going on. How have you coped with waiting like this before? Is there anything in your toolkit to help our over the next few days? 

 

I'm waiting on some news at the moment too and my mind always lists out every possible scenario. Something which helps me is "checking the facts" like, how possible is the worst outcome or realising I actually can't do anything or make a decision until I get this piece of news. I don't know if that might help in this case? 

 

Thinking of you, 

TuxedoCat

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