My wife changed due to the hormonal stress associated with becoming pregnant. I suggest giving your partner a chance to really de-stress. Perhaps a 3 week vacation to a resort, without wifi. Anything you can do to remove stress, will reduce the expression of a personality disorder.
Another thought was hospitals have councillors who may be able to speak with you and wour husband about the post operation experiences.
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