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supporting an alcoholic family member

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Thank you! We have had some more positive news- our son rang detox after him saying he wanted to go to go to hospital to try to get into detox quicker. I said he had tried that before and it didn't work. So he rang the Alcohol and Drug Service (detox) and was very honest about his needs and desperation and they said he could come in on Tuesday (after court)! We have also had our first very good evening with him tonight, I don't know why, maybe the anti-anxiety meds is starting to reduce his anxiety and therefore he has been asking for alcohol less often. [edited by moderator] His eyes were not puffy and he was swearing far less and generally more pleasant. @Ru-bee  

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The phone intake went really well. The guy was very patient and our son very honest.

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My son got into detox and rehab and was going well UNTIL he decided he'd give his excess tablets to another participant, so was kicked out of rehab. He and we were very disappointed and he tried to get into other rehabs but nothing was available of course.  However, his ex's mother has said he can only see his children if he has not been drinking , so he has been sober/dry for 6 days now. He has never done that before he tells us. I am no longer walking on egg-shells and we are taking one day at a time. He is allowed back in rehab in 3 months time, but he is now not sure about that as he is interested in another girl... So the saga continues. @Ru-bee 

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It sounds like it's been turbulent, but that overall there has been some progress made @MorningStar1 

How are you and your husband feeling about it? I know it was really weighing on you when you first posted, as is very understandable

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thanx @Ru-bee! We are feeling thankful and calmer now that he has been sober the last several days and the (reward) visit from his children is going well. My husband mentioned he was feeling more anxious and said it was because each day was unpredictable with our son. I have also been feeling more anxious in my body, but we are not feeling overwhelmed. He has said our son cannot live here if he goes back to the bottle ad will have to go to rehab. But it usually takes weeks to get into rehab. I said I would not want my son here if he takes us the drink again, but will abide by what my hubby decides. So we have mixed feelings.

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