15-01-2020 01:21 AM
So many other posts seem so harder than mine, it almost seems indulgent of me to seek support. But I still do!
I know when things are bad for him when his voice is cold to me. I knew 30 years ago things weren't right with him and I chose to stick with him. Just a very lonely life sometimes. He falls out with others so most friends fade away
15-01-2020 08:04 AM
It is not indulgent to seek support. Relationships are often difficult for people with MI and despite wanting friendships they often push people away.
A little bit different to parent/child or siblings, couples do tend to have the same group of friends and some find it difficult to go places without the other. This is where an interest group can be helpful. Going to a craft group, garden club, exercise class etc without ones significant other is a great place to meet like minded people and heading out for coffee with one or more of the bowling/ bridge/ etc girls can be a path to a friendship.
It is often hard to take that first step and go to something, but I have found that when I do, I have found there are others out there in need of a friend.
16-01-2020 01:51 PM
Hey there @Bobkat I am sorry to hear of this loneliness you hold. We hear you and want you to know you're not alone among this community
As with @Darcy, skill based hobbies can be a really good form of self care and generally a potential outlet for socialising. It's important you feel supported too, not just your husband. Feel free to phone the SANE Help Centre weekdays between 10am-10pm if you want a confidential chat with the counsellors too, we're here to listen.
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