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[Appleblossom]

@PeppyPatti Warm hugs and warm cuppa chocolate 

[PeppyPatti]

Thanks @Appleblossom 

@I’m going online to get whatever free samples I can get. It seems that the free samples are on reddit…………

Thank-you for the hug……..

love you……

my youngest son is doing well. My oldest son ……I’m not supposed to know but he’s sorting out his hatred towards me. 
wonder if it will work out for him? 

love you 

[Appleblossom]

All we want is what is best for our children @PeppyPatti 

I am still at the nothing I can do but pray….

[PeppyPatti]

I don’t know anymore Apple. I get that he’s gotta be self involved —- he doesn’t have a sister or children and he’s forgotten the maliciousness of mum but goes to her for support. 

Maybe, I wonder if there’s money going into his hands ……….that kept me there in my 30s, I had none. I lived in hope, I ignored the warning signs. I needed to survive and very little if any went into my hands. I don’t think this would happen for him. 

I can’t think about it. I’ve got to take care of me.

i think ide die if i had your journey with daughters……..you are a very strong and decisive lady to be there for your family. 

you do too. 

[PeppyPatti]

@Glisten You have any idea how much this means to me. I care about you very much.

this is how much you affect me; as I see my slow and laborious path of recovering from this damn operation : you are in the back of my mind. I don’t need to justify myself to anyone. I feel supported. full stop. Move on. Let’s go and gently walk in Perth today and go to Uniqlo and look at clothes…….nice and gentle. 

@Glisten Do you think that any of my associates understand what it was like to lose my home because I was vulnerable? I’ve had people saying it’s your fault. 
you did it to yourself because you cannot budget.

but you got it like so so many people here. Everyone has to move on. Everyone only has now to deal with not the past. My future is speechless with love.

[Glisten]

Victim blaming @PeppyPatti 

It’s easier to blame the victim, because they can’t fix it and it makes them very uncomfortable.

I don’t understand this Victim Blaming reaction. It makes no sense to me.

You aren’t asking anybody to fix the situation, just asking for solid support. A hand to hold. Someone who can think straight for you when you can’t.

I’m ashamed to say, that my family did the Victim blaming thing to me. I thought I had raised them better.

It ALWAYS happens when you are at your lowest and most vulnerable point.

People say horrible things.

I am so sorry that happened to you.

I’m so incredibly happy that life flipped like a coin 🪙 and a different future awaits you. Big HUGS 🫂 

[PeppyPatti]

 I felt - I felt something was a little ---- 

Not right. But I felt confused. 

Those two words - I feel in years and years later ----- they come to a conclusion ........ 

Those two words - is this word-- 

Thoughtless another one ?? 

Or are we being too kind. 

You have 2 feet on the ground which is saying more than most. 

There is no competition 

[Glisten]

You are giving me way too much credit @PeppyPatti 

I’m at my most sensitive, emotional and vulnerable, when I’m tired. The wheels start to fall off and before I know it, I’m sideways.

Tonight I’m tapping out early.

You get yourself some good sleep. It helps healing.

Big HUGS 🥰 

[PeppyPatti]

Jynx @Jynx 

Somewhere you wrote something like your emotions are not you. 

"

they signify an unmet need or potential threat to survival."

Well you write some other stuff. Okay my study days are over. But spending time on this so you mean this + 

That all emotions talk about a need ? 

Like right now, I'm very annoyed about some things that are happening. So looking up the feeling and addressing my needs in that - 

Is this right ? 

So I can just be very furious and yell. 

Or I can look on the computer the feeling I'm feeling and reflect on feeling it and what 

I can do to get my needs met ? Like -

So I need to say I feel misunderstood instead of jumping up and down and screaming