rough time

[Zoe7]

Try having just something little to eat - even a couple of biscuits - it is really important when you feel like this that you keep your energy levels up - especially when you have to go to work this afternoon @outlander When you are there try to focus just on doing the job and poutting out of your mind what happened this morning - that will help to settle you back down a little too. 

[Former-Member]

@BlueBay, forget distruction, breathe deep - maybe go burn it off with that work. Then reward uaself with a good movie or capaccino ☺
Hi @Zoe7, im travelling soso atm, lile everyone else - limited energy, serious joint pain and bot of headache atm. Havin a latdown but better go do lunch shortly.
You managing? I really hope you sont have to sell your home but if so - its not the end of rhe world. I regret buying my cottage now, cant aell it when i needed to, body cant maintain the yards and its so let nely in that town without the kids. I think home ownership gives us a false sense of security. The rates & insurance and maintence are crazy. Did ya know - if ya dont pay rates for x3 yrs the council here has legal right to sell your home, for a dime if necessary, just to get back their $ - with interest?
And if my home bursndown whil I'm away- the insurence wont cover it anymore cause its empty. And... Just saying. Let someone else do the maintenance. Having said that - the dole/newstart foesnt cover average rent let alone food. My son was paying 375wk for a one bedroom unit. Same thing in the country half the price. Could famous ly help out? Its not fair i know. Cant take it with us. Hoping something works out - start building stamina with volunteer work - helped me. xox

[Former-Member]

@outlander
You're only human & I person its far too much on you I understand. You have had enough of all the crap in your life & sickness & chronic pain it just doesn't go away no matter what we do its very frustrating & damaging.

[Zoe7]

Right now your emotions and feelings are very heightened @outlander - you can't think straight while they are like that - use work as an energy release and then revisit the same emotions with a clearer head - you cannot achieve anything when you cannot think straight Hon.

[outlander]

I dont want to go to work @Zoe7 i have to put up with dreadful people.
I have to go in half an hr

[Zoe7]

I hope it doesn't get to that stage for me @Former-Member - my house is the safest place I have ever felt despite what I am still dealing with. I felt it the moment I first walked in and I have done a lot to the place since I bought it. I relaly do not want to think about having to leave here - that really would be the end for me!

I can see that you are trying to push through as best you can but it is not easy - I feel for you too @Former-Member 

[Former-Member]

Hi @Former-Member. I noticed you'd written 'moderator' in your post and it sounds like you wanted to tag somebody so I thought I'd jump in. 

Things feel so overwhleming today @outlander. It can be exhausting to cope when our minds are flooded with doubt and uncertainty. I'm glad to you reached out for support on the forums. 

I reckon @Zoe7 was onto something when she talked about self care and perhaps it would be good to think of one thing you could do for now to support yourself through this moment. And then the next moment. And then the next. One step at a time. As always, if at any time you need immediate support, you can contact Lifeline on 13 11 14 🐨

[outlander]

Thanks @Former-Member its hard to even just breathe atm

@Former-Member its crap. Ive really just had enough of it all.

@Zoe7 im really hating emotions and feelings atm. Why cant they just behave

[Zoe7]

This is when you simply focus on doing the job you are there for and a bit like you do with race horses that get spooked easily - put the blinkers on Hon and just do what you are there for and then leave - don't give anyone the opportunity to further upset you today @outlander. When you are feeling like this you are more likely to read negatively into whatever anyone does so it is vital you keep to yourself as ,uch as possible to not let that negativity in. In saying all that it is also vital that you go to work - this is sticking to your routines even when you don't feel you can.

[Former-Member]

@Former-Member
Thank you for being so caring GBU!
Love & Hugs!
Bella xo 🙂